Don't Tell Me What to do!

Is there a Rebel in all of us?

There has been a lot written about our inner child but what about our inner teenage and what do they have to say? How do you know you have one?  When you have the thought "don't tell me what to do", that would be your inner teenager speaking. Our inner teenager likes to rebel against what they perceive is taking away their freedom. What sort of freedom though, does the inner teenager bring itself through rebellion? A sense of of self, empowerment, clarity and action or pain, confusion, anger and a sense of disenchantment with the world. The inner teenager is similar to the inner child in asking you for your attention, to be listened to and an understanding of the boundaries. This is quite funny because teenagers appear nonplussed about receiving your attention, would rather be heard on Facebook and be free to do whatever they want. As adults we can become this way again in life when we are searching for new boundaries within ourselves on what we are and are not willing to experience. In a way we are looking to break free of what we feel bound by and are seeking to independently manage the direction of our own life. An awareness of where we may be rebelling in life can be a silent call in asking ourselves where we aren't feeling free enough to be?

Shattered

"I'm shattered", how many of us have heard ourselves say this to ourselves or another? Do we question what has shattered us in the first place? 


Have you observed how your mind is already at work, having conversations, hanging out the washing, going for a walk, making lunches while you are simply getting ready to go for a morning walk. There is a saying that where your thoughts go your energy flows. I watched my mind this morning as I lay in bed, got ready for a walk, went for a walk and by the time 6:30am came about I could see how my thoughts had shattered me into being with faces, places and acts that did not require neither my energy or my input at that time. 
When our thoughts are elsewhere so are we and it means that we are constantly facing our lives from a shattered perspective. There are three useful tools that you can use to bring yourself back to the moment, the first is to ask yourself:


Where are am I with my thoughts?
  e.g. Am I making the bed or at work having a conversation while making my bed. 


Am I aware of my breath?


e.g. Am I breathing short and shallow or am I aware of bringing my breath in through my nose down to my abdomen and exhaling slowly up through my lungs and out of my mouth.


Do I need to take this action now? 


If the answer is yes then stop thinking about it and go do it, if the answer is no write it on a list and be where you require yourself to be.

Lucky Underpants

How many of us think we have things happen to us because we have our lucky underpants on?  Is our luck really tied up in our underpants or the person wearing them?  Could we actually have all our luck tied up in our beliefs which influence our thoughts which then go on to create our reality?  One of my fathers greatest lines to quote is "the harder I work, the luckier I get".  Personal growth can work the same way.  The more time you put into becoming aware of what you are doing and why you are doing it, diminishes the need or even the thought to get your lucky underpants out because you are too busy taking action to change your life.  The true potential to have a lucky life or a life you feel lucky to have, naturally reveals itself because you are naturally revealing yourself to yourself.

The Tap

The Tap

When you have an issue with someone causing discomfort in your life, what do you do?

a) Give into their demands and obtain short term peace for yourself

b) Let all and sundry know of your dilemma and try to gather an army

c) Fight Back

d) Take self-responsibilty for solving your issue with the issue

An unresolved issue can feel like a tap on the shoulder causing unnecessary distraction from your personal path in life. This tap influences you because it reminds you of a past event that has unexpressed feelings, words, or actions attached to it.

What do you do?

The answer to this question explains why the discomfort is present and what you need to tap into, in order to become aware of what created the discomfort in the first place. 

For further tools on how to manage what you feel is unresolved feel free to contact me.