No Gain without the Pain

As I was gagging a little taking my Liver Herbs plus Olive Oil concoction this morning it occurred to me that perhaps this was a no gain without some pain moment.  I had been putting off starting my Liver detox because I understood the process and the discomfort involved.  I also knew that I would have to give up things I particularly enjoy like champagne, cheese, chocolate and the simplicity of eating and cooking what I like.  I understood however that along with my house my body could also do with a good spring clean.  This has made me question why we avoid things that are uncomfortable even though on some level we understand we will feel all the better for facing it.

When I cleanse my liver my body responds and there is discomfort/pain in some form involved, attached to that pain there is a feeling that needs acknowledgement, understanding, and healing. So the gain is releasing the pain.

By looking at our discomfort, would that bring comfort to the uncomfortable parts of our life?

For more information on Spring Cleaning your body through detox simply follow this link  www.detox4life.com.au

The Moth

The other day I was snuggled up inside reading a book and feeling very blessed for the rainy weather supporting such a past time I noticed a large moth on the pavers outside.  I watched as the moth struggled to fly with all the rain dampening it wings.  The moth kept try, try, trying to fly until it realised it just couldn't with all the droplets of rain falling against its wings.  The moth became still and after a minute or two it began to move again, gathering its remaining energy the moth took off and flew a few metres to the shelter of a plant with large leaves. 

The moth reminded me of a dampened spirit. When we are flying through life and all of a sudden it rains and we feel so weighed down by it all we find it hard to fly.  Thats when we need to stop the struggle against the rain in order become still. In the stillness, like the moth we can then decide to give up and be washed away or gather enough energy to take shelter.  Sometimes it is necessary to take shelter when things are beating us down, allow ourselves  to regroup,  so we can fly again. In life we can be dampened so easily and also dampen others. Nature is a constant teacher.

Coming out of the Closet

A wardrobe or a cupboard can reveal the secrets of our own self-development.  The whole thing may be full of crap no longer needed or be so organised that it restricts us with the rules of choice.

The cupboard may contain things given to us that is not our style but we feel duty bound through some unspoken law to hold on to them.  The contents of your Wardrobe may reveal you perceived failings and successes with your too tight skinny jeans or the pants that are now two sizes too big for you.

Some of the contents may be worn, outdated, brand new with the tags still hanging on them waiting for that special occasion, or there may be a pile of things stuffed way at the back ready to be dealt with at a much late date.

You could even have things in there that don't even belong to you but you choose to hold on to them anyway.

The things that you love and adore may also be in there but can you see the secret of yourself instantly or is it hiding behind all the above.  Are you there things in your life that finally need to come out of the closet?

The Runner

I run because I fear that if I stop I will need to experience a feeling that may cause me pain. I am not sure whether this pain inside of me is loneliness, embarrassment, unworthiness, anger, sadness,  jealousy, or hopelessness. I run anyway, because it keeps me active in my illusion and elusive of any form of change. I may change my running clothes from time to time but my reason for running remains the same. This all allows me to keep my back to what I fear and beyond that the truth. I'm not really sure why I started running. I guess along the way I must have felt my path in life wasn't safe and have continued running seeking never to feel that unsafe again. I need to stop. I need to face all that I have been running from, in all of it's uncomfortableness. In my heart I know that beyond all this, is the peace I have lost in becoming a runner.  

Introducing The Divorce Assistant

The inspiration for this little book came when I was standing at the top of some stairs looking up to the sky and asking myself where could I possibly find some information on how to do a divorce? I didn't find it out there but with some encouragement from two people very dear to my heart, found the assistance instead within me. I hope this book does the same for all who need it. ♥ Kathy Wise

www.thedivorceassistant.com.au

Deny the Lie

How do we deny the lie? Is it through making ourselves busy, perfect, fit, fat, rich, poor, clean, untidy.......

If asked outright we usually deny the lie, even to ourselves, we can do this subtly or consciously. 
An example of this is someone asking if we are ok? We answer "I'm fine". If our life was shown in pictures behind us, would the person asking if we are ok, see that our life is not fine? 
This person would see any lie denied and we may feel the lie we have told, sensing the pictures behind us and aware of the truth they represent. How would it feel to share our life?

Exercise 

Take a moment and make yourself comfortable, take a few deep breaths and allow yourself to relax.  Visualise yourself standing in front of yourself and see yourself with the pictures of your life shown behind you?  Identify with what you are denying, without judgement, you are simply looking at what it is and what it isn't.  When you have observed all the pictures, voice what you are seeing to yourself?  As you recognise any denial, the pictures dissolve until all you are left with is yourself.  At this point you may see yourself merge together with yourself. When you are ready take a few slow inhalations and exhalations and feel the weight of your body back in the chair or on the floor where you are. 

The Act of Competition

If we are in competition what are we competing against?

It can be surprising how many acts you do in a day that involve competing on some level. This may occur in business, at your work, going to the gym, with siblings, in a sport, within yourself etc. The act of competition, when you look at it closely is to be better then....... What does this act prove? That we are safe from judgement, bankruptcy, non-love, being not good enough? 

The flip side of the coin is to not compete, never being put in a position where you are shown to be lessor than. So you  quietly exist without creating a ripple or perhaps giving up entering into anything you suspect contains competition because you never feel good enough to compete. What does this act prove? That you are safe from judgement, bankruptcy, non-love, being not good enough? 

Is there a way to simply be yourself in all that you do without being a winner or a loser?

Little Miss Not Knowing

Little Miss Not Knowing would get out of bed each morning not knowing what the day would bring. She would stand in front of her wardrobe not knowing what she was going to wear until she opened the doors and felt her choice of outfit jump out at her. Little Miss Not Knowing would take a shower and dress not knowing what she was going to have for breakfast, only to discover she felt like pancakes when she entered her kitchen. After finishing her breakfast and cleaning up Little Miss Not Knowing had an idea that she would love to go for a walk in nature and call past the Bakery on the way home to buy some Tea Cake not knowing how he would eat a whole Tea Cake by herself. By mid morning she returned home, Little Miss Not Knowing put the kettle on not knowing why she felt to get two tea cups out, when there was a knock at the front door. Little Miss Know it All had come for a visit to tell Little Miss Not Knowing all that she did not know. “How can you possibly live not knowing” Little Miss Know it All tutted over her Tea Cake and tea at Little Miss Not Knowing. “I manage” Little Miss Not Knowing replied with a small smile and a sip of her tea.

Written by Little Miss Not Knowing What to Blog About

Thankyou for the inspiration Roger Hargreaves

Breaking Apart

There are going to be things that occur in the process of a relationship breaking apart that you would rather not experience. Both you and your former partner are going to say and think things that you don’t mean, in other words things that have no element of truth in them.

The way your relationship ends may not go the way you had planned it to and when you or your former partner are not get what they are aiming for this can throw things into a spin. In these situations you need to allow yourself to take a step back and view the issue in the reality that is present. In some cases this means letting go of an expected outcome in order to move on with your life. This does not mean the other person “wins” as there is nothing to win except your own self-knowledge. To let go takes great inner strength and although rewarding in the long run can be very painful at first.

When you truly accept the reality of a situation you relinquish your need to control it, compromise yourself, or be attached to how things MUST turn out. This is what causes most of your suffering not your former partner. The result will then give you the space to act with non-attachment and lead you into an awareness of the next step to take with the current situation and your life.

Don't Tell Me What to do!

Is there a Rebel in all of us?

There has been a lot written about our inner child but what about our inner teenage and what do they have to say? How do you know you have one?  When you have the thought "don't tell me what to do", that would be your inner teenager speaking. Our inner teenager likes to rebel against what they perceive is taking away their freedom. What sort of freedom though, does the inner teenager bring itself through rebellion? A sense of of self, empowerment, clarity and action or pain, confusion, anger and a sense of disenchantment with the world. The inner teenager is similar to the inner child in asking you for your attention, to be listened to and an understanding of the boundaries. This is quite funny because teenagers appear nonplussed about receiving your attention, would rather be heard on Facebook and be free to do whatever they want. As adults we can become this way again in life when we are searching for new boundaries within ourselves on what we are and are not willing to experience. In a way we are looking to break free of what we feel bound by and are seeking to independently manage the direction of our own life. An awareness of where we may be rebelling in life can be a silent call in asking ourselves where we aren't feeling free enough to be?

Shattered

"I'm shattered", how many of us have heard ourselves say this to ourselves or another? Do we question what has shattered us in the first place? 


Have you observed how your mind is already at work, having conversations, hanging out the washing, going for a walk, making lunches while you are simply getting ready to go for a morning walk. There is a saying that where your thoughts go your energy flows. I watched my mind this morning as I lay in bed, got ready for a walk, went for a walk and by the time 6:30am came about I could see how my thoughts had shattered me into being with faces, places and acts that did not require neither my energy or my input at that time. 
When our thoughts are elsewhere so are we and it means that we are constantly facing our lives from a shattered perspective. There are three useful tools that you can use to bring yourself back to the moment, the first is to ask yourself:


Where are am I with my thoughts?
  e.g. Am I making the bed or at work having a conversation while making my bed. 


Am I aware of my breath?


e.g. Am I breathing short and shallow or am I aware of bringing my breath in through my nose down to my abdomen and exhaling slowly up through my lungs and out of my mouth.


Do I need to take this action now? 


If the answer is yes then stop thinking about it and go do it, if the answer is no write it on a list and be where you require yourself to be.

Lucky Underpants

How many of us think we have things happen to us because we have our lucky underpants on?  Is our luck really tied up in our underpants or the person wearing them?  Could we actually have all our luck tied up in our beliefs which influence our thoughts which then go on to create our reality?  One of my fathers greatest lines to quote is "the harder I work, the luckier I get".  Personal growth can work the same way.  The more time you put into becoming aware of what you are doing and why you are doing it, diminishes the need or even the thought to get your lucky underpants out because you are too busy taking action to change your life.  The true potential to have a lucky life or a life you feel lucky to have, naturally reveals itself because you are naturally revealing yourself to yourself.

The Tap

The Tap

When you have an issue with someone causing discomfort in your life, what do you do?

a) Give into their demands and obtain short term peace for yourself

b) Let all and sundry know of your dilemma and try to gather an army

c) Fight Back

d) Take self-responsibilty for solving your issue with the issue

An unresolved issue can feel like a tap on the shoulder causing unnecessary distraction from your personal path in life. This tap influences you because it reminds you of a past event that has unexpressed feelings, words, or actions attached to it.

What do you do?

The answer to this question explains why the discomfort is present and what you need to tap into, in order to become aware of what created the discomfort in the first place. 

For further tools on how to manage what you feel is unresolved feel free to contact me.

Gracing 2012

Happy New Year to you may this year bring much joy, prosperity and peace to your life.

2011 was a full on year for many of us, fraught with challenges both personally and as a community. This year feels full of the potential for grace.  Grace can be defined as seeming effortless beauty or charm of movement, form or proportion.  

What if we as human beings endeavoured to use grace in all we approached this year?

 This could be in all our emotions, our relationships and even our goals for this year.

How different would our lives be if we encompassed the grace within ourselves to observe our impatience, judgement of others, and our material desires?

In using grace in life situations would we see the seemingly effortless beauty of our situations or observe that perhaps a situation lacks seemingly effortless beauty and we need to remove ourselves in order to become grace full.

In 2012 True Life Solutions will endeavour with grace to provide you with the service you require in order to bring grace back into your life.  These qualified services are counselling and alternative therapy based.  There is also some extremely exciting news which I am very pleased to share with you.  At the completion of 2011 I was introduced to an amazing health product that is revolutionary to wellbeing to say the least.  I have personally been on the product for around three months and the changes I have observed on a physical, mental and emotional wellbeing level continue to astound me.  I have also introduced this product to selected clients and friends, and have been blown away at the astonishing impact on people’s health, and as a healer there is no greater joy.  

“I always found it hard to get out of bed of a morning, sore back and so on... my energy level is so so much higher and I actually want to get out of bed and go to work” W Achilles

That’s not all on February 19^th I will run a Why Workshop?  This workshop is based on looking at self development from a whole new angle, so Why Not come?

For details on the above information call me on 0407968300 or        e-mail kathywise@truelifesolutions.com.au 

Look forward to your call.....

Warm Wishes & Happy New Year

Kathy Wise