The Tear

                            The Tear

A tiny crystal droplet was running down my cheek
cascading as a ripple then another tried to sneak
falling from my eyes like dewdrops
born of past emotions that run like a river deep

The tear mourns and cries relentless to the one I seek
as I sit and pray in silence to a heart that eternally weeps
please my love to return to me
as my wanting never sleeps

Kathy Wise

Unstuck

Unstuck

Why do we put so much energy into not becoming unstuck? If we are avoiding being unstuck doesn’t it mean we are actively choosing to be stuck in something?  For example Penny is really struggling at work; the pressure she is under from her boss to perform to her exact standards is high.  Penny’s boss approaches her with criticisms about a report she sent; Penny apologises profusely and straight away returns to her work as she doesn’t want to appear unstuck to her boss.  When Penny hops in the car to pick up her children she has little cry and then tells herself to pull it together because she doesn’t want her children to see her unstuck. While Penny is waiting outside the school her friend Mary walks up and asks how Penny is going, she replies that she is good and everything is going well as she doesn’t want Mary to witness her unstuck. Later Penny cooks a lovely dinner for her husband and children, does the washing, irons her husband’s shirt and packs tomorrow’s school lunches. Penny tells her husband to go off to bed and she’ll be in soon, when he has gone she opens the bottle of red wine hidden in the back of the cupboard as she doesn’t want her husband to suspect she is unstuck.

Why does Penny feel so ashamed of being unstuck?

What is she avoiding by being honest with herself and those around her?

How is her avoidance causing her further pain and suffering?

If Penny is avoiding judgement isn’t she already experiencing the very thing she wishes to avoid in judging herself and the way she feels as not ok?

When we come unstuck it is our inner self alerting us to the fact that we are stuck. By becoming unstuck we allow ourselves to express what we have been feeling stuck in. If we can express this feeling/s without the need to justify, we then have the opportunity to stick to being our true selves. The focus then naturally becomes sticking to our own awareness rather than being stuck to the assumptions of how others may view us.

When Harry Met Sally

When Harry Met Sally

When Harry met Sally he could not believe his luck. Sally was everything that Harry had ever wanted in a girl, open, honest, creative and playful.  When Sally met Harry she finally felt like she could  be happy. Harry was everything that Sally had ever wanted in a guy, caring, thoughtful, supportive, and adventurous. The two felt smitten with each other and could see no wrong in the other.

 One day Sally said something to Harry that reminded him of the way his mother used to criticise him.  Harry then reacted in a way that reminded Sally of the angry tone her father used to speak to her.  All of a sudden Harry started to notice things in Sally that he wasn’t aware of before and Sally started to see things in Harry that she hadn’t recognised before.

 They both tried to push this away but as time went on they discovered more about each other that made them feel angry, hurt and misunderstood.  Soon both Harry and Sally felt like two different people. Harry noticed he got impatient easily and tried to control what Sally did.  Sally observed that she would cry over littlest of things and compromise for the sake of peace.

One morning they both happened to enter their bathroom at the same time to brush their teeth.  As each of them looked at their reflection a small voice inside of them asked “Is this really me?” and then “Is what I think of another really them?”  Harry looked at Sally and Sally gazed back at Harry, they both said “sorry” in unison together.

Harry and Sally traced back to the point when their relationship started to change.  Harry spoke openly about the criticism he received from his mother in his childhood and Sally shared her feelings around the anger she experienced growing up with her father.  As they listened to each other they felt the wall that existed between them crumble and dissolve.  All of a sudden Harry started to notice things in Sally that he was aware of before and Sally started to see things in Harry that she had recognised before.

“No external source can ever be blamed for our emotions, as all our responses to external experiences reveal the state of our inner being” Mike Robinson author of The True Dynamics of Relationships

Amnesia Angel

Amnesia Angel

What if you were an Angel who bumped your head when falling from heaven and couldn’t remember why on earth you were here?

How would you be able to recognise how special you are and the purpose you came with?

Would you know you have lost your memory because you gossip about other people when they aren’t with you, or would you know because you think judgemental thoughts about yourself and others?  Could it be that you remember when you work so much you have no time for your family or yourself anymore?  Maybe it’s when you use others only for what you can get from them or maybe is it constantly pleasing and compromising your truth for others?

How would you remember the angel forgotten within?

If there is a God how would he possibly bring you around to remember who you truly are?

Would you start to remember because you truly listen to yourself and others, or would it be due to you spending time in nature to clear your thoughts? Could it be that you remember when you work at what you love and spend time with those you care about or could it be when you finally create a space in your life to heal and grow?  Maybe it’s when you are truly unconditional in loving yourself and others or set pure boundaries in what you are willing and not willing to experience in all relationships?

Would you now remember how special you are?

If there is a God would he still need to remind you that you were an angel?

 Or would the true acts of service to yourself and others be all you ever needed to remind you that you have a purpose here?