Married to the Process Divorced from the Result

Married to the Process

 Divorced from the Result

Most of us have been taught from a very early age to divide things into good or bad and our decision making processes have followed the same route. When we make a decision it is then labelled as “good” if the outcomes are pleasurable and “bad” if the outcome causes pain. What started out as a good decision can turn into a bad one and what started out as a bad decision can end up being good. But what makes a good decision good and a bad decision bad, and what part of ourselves is deciding this for us? What constitutes the actual criteria for a bad decision and do we ever give the results of our decisions the credit they deserve before we full stop them and label them as good/bad. In life many of us have made decisions that bought us pleasure and pain but each decision has in some way offered us an opportunity in showing us more about ourselves and how we operate in this world. The most limiting decision is one that is made with a desired result attached because it cannot foster the inspiration and action required in being able to reach its full potential. When we make choices in life we need to be aware of whether we are making them from a point of being married to the process but divorced from the result. In life sometimes we are not sure what is intuitively best for our needs because we are in a place of operating from desire of the ego rather than desire of the heart. Each decision that we make will offer the opportunity to observe the answer. So it may take a so called “bad decision” to enlighten us of what we are doing or what part of our ego we need to let go of and it may take a “good decision” to do the same. In the end it is just a decision. One that will, in some way, help us become aware of what we are married to and divorced from.