Who did you put your lipstick on for this morning

Who did you put your lipstick on for this morning?

Have you ever stopped yourself in the middle of an act and asked yourself who or what am I doing this for?  What would your answer reveal to you? When you woke up this morning and got dressed did you put on your skinny jeans so that the cute guy you noticed at the coffee shop yesterday, notices you today? Did you comb your hair so the other mothers at school don’t think you look untidy and don’t “have it all together”? Did you dress in an outfit that made it look like you know what you are doing at work? Or did you put on an invisible mask so that all your married friends wouldn’t know that your husband is cheating on you?

Why you may care in how you look becomes more about the beliefs and judgement of others. Then consequently avoiding how these beliefs and judgements then cause you to feel. The feeling therefore is the thing we fear most, not the actual judgement. Even not caring for how you appear, is an unconscious call to gain attention to the external. Is looking after yourself ever really just about you? How do you actually learn how to love yourself not because you have to out of fear, but because you appreciate yourself enough to actually want to?

If you started your day in observation of the acts you made and became aware of why you do what you do, the acts would reveal the driver behind them. For example when you go to put your lipstick on what thoughts did you think? Why do you think them? Why do you believe them? And why do you listen to them? This is about caring for you in what you do, and why you do it. Look at the fear that binds you to the thinking and feeling that you are not enough, with or without your make-up, skinny jeans or perfect body. Start to become conscious of who you are trying to please in life and why? Honour who you are by taking care of your needs and the action required in facilitating a more loving and accepting take on yourself.  

“I’ll have the $50 Chanel Lippy thanks with the $10 Target jeans, God I Love Me!!!”