Unstuck

Unstuck

Why do we put so much energy into not becoming unstuck? If we are avoiding being unstuck doesn’t it mean we are actively choosing to be stuck in something?  For example Penny is really struggling at work; the pressure she is under from her boss to perform to her exact standards is high.  Penny’s boss approaches her with criticisms about a report she sent; Penny apologises profusely and straight away returns to her work as she doesn’t want to appear unstuck to her boss.  When Penny hops in the car to pick up her children she has little cry and then tells herself to pull it together because she doesn’t want her children to see her unstuck. While Penny is waiting outside the school her friend Mary walks up and asks how Penny is going, she replies that she is good and everything is going well as she doesn’t want Mary to witness her unstuck. Later Penny cooks a lovely dinner for her husband and children, does the washing, irons her husband’s shirt and packs tomorrow’s school lunches. Penny tells her husband to go off to bed and she’ll be in soon, when he has gone she opens the bottle of red wine hidden in the back of the cupboard as she doesn’t want her husband to suspect she is unstuck.

Why does Penny feel so ashamed of being unstuck?

What is she avoiding by being honest with herself and those around her?

How is her avoidance causing her further pain and suffering?

If Penny is avoiding judgement isn’t she already experiencing the very thing she wishes to avoid in judging herself and the way she feels as not ok?

When we come unstuck it is our inner self alerting us to the fact that we are stuck. By becoming unstuck we allow ourselves to express what we have been feeling stuck in. If we can express this feeling/s without the need to justify, we then have the opportunity to stick to being our true selves. The focus then naturally becomes sticking to our own awareness rather than being stuck to the assumptions of how others may view us.